Whining losers: right wing edition.

[dsrtao]

What an astonishing whiner den Beste is. No wonder he only gets attention from women when he pays professionals.

(For people who haven't read the article, he says this himself. Thanks for the link, Jonquil.)

A brief anecdote: when I was about to be a freshman in college, my grandmother told me I should try to get a girlfriend as soon as possible. "Then you'll have someone to do your laundry for you."

I was horrified. For the next nine years, I could not bring myself to allow anyone else to touch my laundry. Even when doing laundry together with my fiancee, now wife, I had to keep all my clothes separate from hers, and do it myself, albeit on the same trip to the laundromat.

Some free advice to anyone who is of a similar mindset to den Beste: for the set of potential partners who might be interested in you, there is almost nothing you can do which is more discouraging than being desperate. If a woman takes offense at you opening a door for her, you are trying too hard (and she is not interested in you; if she were interested, she would have found a way to convey that.)

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Re: Duality is nice

[hfcougar.livejournal.com]

Having now read the rest of the article, he does finally complain at the end that you can be both - and yet while still completely missing the point.

And I would love for a guy to walk up to me and say "You seem to be intelligent, articulate, and well educated, and I would consider myself extraordinarily lucky to become romantically involved with you. My intentions are strictly honorable. May I see you again?" as a pick-up line. But then, I'm a freak.

Re: Duality is nice

[dsrtao]

See, the general problem is that it reeks of desperation. This is, I think, better:

"You seem to be intelligent, articulate, and well educated, and I would like to get to know you better. If you are similarly inclined, here's my home number [on the back of my business card]."

Re: Duality is nice

[siderea]

I'm a freak, too. I like to be asked. Three of my four boyfriends approached me by getting to know me through common social circles, then taking me aside and point blank asking if they might court me. What can I say? I find courage sexy. And it takes a lot of courage to put it out there like that, instead of beating around the bush and hinting. They had the intestinal fortitude to risk my rejection. (The fourth? I asked him. :)